Dawn Robertson is a wife, home-schooling mother of three sweet girls, a childrens Sunday school teacher and deacon at MCC. She knows all about being ask "those" questions, come along with us as she helps us navigate how to answer them with honesty, God's Word, love and truth.
Tears, it started with tears, as is typical in a house full of girls. “It’s just not FAIR! How can my friend have so many medical problems and I’m perfectly healthy?!”
Well, I guess it actually started with an epi pen which led to the tears. It started in the van while we were returning the epi pen and allergy kit to my daughter’s good friend.
How do we handle these big questions when they come from little mouths? Kids ask questions, because they think deeply about things, and often they ask these questions at the most inopportune times! In the car when they see a homeless man or woman on the street, when they overhear a conversation they should not have, when life happens and they start growing up too fast!
How do we handle these big questions? Here are some ideas to get you started!
- Be in the Word yourself. If I am not in the Word, I am not equipped to handle mothering, homeschooling, or training these small-ish humans God has loaned me.
- Pray for Guidance.
- Tackle the question when it is asked. This can be hard but it’s important. Their hearts are most responsive when they are thinking on it. Later they may have forgotten all about the question, or even worse, you might forget.
- Be honest. If you don’t know, say so. If you agree that the question is difficult, admit it. If it seems unfair or hurtful, be up front.
- Remind them of what we do know, particularly about God’s character and His Word. Remind them what we know of God’s character, both by naming some things, and by having them name some.
- Talk about the good things you can see coming about because of this, and good things that could come about, with the understanding that we ultimately did not know for sure. Use examples, from the Bible and your life to illustrate that God can use all things for his purpose.
- If possible, end with Scriptures.
- If they still have questions, encourage them to ask other trusted adults. This gives them the understanding that their parents won’t pretend to have all the answers and that there is a community of like-minded believers they can trust and confide in.
On my best days I get it all right, in the right order! But sometimes I don’t get it all right, you might not either, and it’s okay because God’s grace is big enough for both of us. Here are some things I’ve learned to avoid.
- Don’t get angry when the questions get asked. The timing may be inconvenient or the question irritating, but it’s important to them.
- Don’t make stuff up. If there is no “neat” resolution to the question, admit it. It is okay for our children to know that there are questions that will remain unanswered in this life, and that ultimately, we must trust God.
So this time, I was driving from Edgewood to Cedar Crest, with no Bible, no concordance, no Bible dictionary….just me, the girls, and the Holy Spirit. Who knows when the next Big Question will come……all I know is that in Him I was equipped to show her sincere compassion and point her back to God’s goodness. I could soothe her heart. And by His grace and guidance, I will be able to do it again and again.
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The Women’s Serving Team is hosting a Mugs & Muffins event August 10th from 9:00 – 11:00am in the Fellowship Hall. Christine Leggett will be leading us in a discussion about the spiritual battle we each have with the desires of our heart. It will be a morning of fellowship, rich discussion and encouragement as we come together to study God’s Word. Praying you can join us. Don’t forget your favorite coffee mug! Please RSVP to Christine if you need childcare.
You can go on a mission trip and never leave Albuquerque. International Students Incorporated (ISI) helps international students when they arrive in the U.S. ISI has a chapter at UNM helping pick up students as they arrive at the airport, providing temporary home stays, helping find housing, English as a second language training and friendship partners. A new school year is getting started with hundreds of international students arriving at UNM. Please consider helping in one of the ways noted above. Alternatively, we will be providing lunch for students and volunteers on Wednesday, August 7 (signup sheets will be in the foyer). If you are interested in helping or just want more information please contact Vince Tidwell.
MCC’s Shine Partnership is hosting a dessert night Wednesday, August 14 at 7:00pm at Ashley Procter’s house! Current Shine volunteers, anyone curious about what Shine is, or those interested in becoming a Shine volunteer are invited! Contact Ashley if you have questions or need directions.
Save the Date: MCC Elders are hosting a 4-week Foundations Class starting September 15 and running through the first week in October. This class is designed to better help you get to know MCC - who we are, what we believe and why, and how to get connected. Please sign up with Sarah.