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I grew up in Iowa.  I met Cathy in 1969, we started dating, fell in love, and began planning marriage.  I left to go to school in Colorado in September 1970, and Cathy broke the relationship in December.  I prayed fervently God would change her heart, but He said NO.  In June 1971 I met Julie, and we fell in love and went steady.  That fall I left permanently for Colorado, and in December Julie broke up with me.  Again I prayed, and again God said NO.  Then I met Judith.  We ministered together, eventually dated, slowly fell in love, and were married in 1975.  I later learned both Cathy and Julie had married, been divorced, and remarried.  Last May Judith and I celebrated our 46^th wedding anniversary.  Judith has been a perfect wife, mother, business partner, and ministry support.  We have served together in Campus Crusade for Christ (now CRU), First Baptist Church Golden Colorado, Mountain Christian Church, Gideons International and other ministries.  Although I didn’t know this at the time I was praying for Cathy and Julie, God knew all of this when he told me NO.  He gave me the perfect wife for me, and kept me from making a big mistake for my life.  Often, God’s NO is not rejection but redirection into a much better path.

Romans 8:26-27 says we don’t really know how to pray, so the Holy Spirit intercedes for us, and sometimes God says no to us but is saying yes to the Holy Spirit.  God knows what we need and what we really want, even though we don’t always pray specifically to that end.

There is a saying, “be careful what you ask for – you might get it”.  The Bible gives examples of when God relented and said YES when He wanted to say NO.  The consequences were always severe.  In Numbers 11:18-20 the people were tired of God’s provision of manna and prayed for meat.  God said YES and the people suffered a terrible plague as a result.  In I Samuel 8 the people rejected God as their King and prayed for a human king.  God warned them of the consequences of that in I Samuel 8:11-19, but they persisted.  So God said YES in I Samuel 8:22, and the eventual result was destruction of their country, captivity, and enslavement.  So God’s NO can be a great blessing in disguise.

We often forget God even said NO to His own Son’s prayer in Matthew 26:39.  But Jesus left the door open for the Father’s more perfect plan.  And because the answer to Jesus prayer was NO, we can all be saved.  Jesus gave us the example of allowing for God’s NO and redirection to a better path, and we would be wise to do the same.

I went shopping last weekend for the perfect centerpiece to display on my kitchen island. Previously I had carelessly thrown apples and bananas and other semi ripe fruit into a bowl and called it art or practicality. As I was browsing, I determined I would find fake fruit to put in the bowl instead to give off a more Martha Stewart vibe and less of an exhausted mom vibe. Something changed in me as I looked at the bags filled with decorative fruit.

I quickly began to realize the fake fruit would not work because it was too perfect and each piece was exactly the same. It was obvious the fruit was faking it. It may have looked perfect on the outside but fake fruit lacks everything that makes fruit, well, fruit. There is no gorgeous smell of fresh nectarines, crispy crunch of a perfect apple, unique stages and flavors of the ripening banana, and most importantly there is no sustenance. Isn’t it often like this in our lives when we try to fake the fruit of the Spirit? It may look beautiful on the outside but in time it will become obvious that it is purely decorative.

When we allow God to transform our hearts the result is beautiful, unique Fruit.

“The Spirit-fueled development of Christ-like character is liberating, because it brings us closer to being the people we were designed to be, the people our Spirit-renewed hearts want us to be.”

– Tim Keller

In a self-help world, it is freeing to know that I cannot become who God wants me to become by myself, by trying harder. I cannot simply decide one day to become a decorative fruit bowl and beat myself up until I am patient and kind and full of joy.

The original Greek word for “Fruit” in Galatians 5 is karpos, and one definition means “a result of something.” When the Fruit of the Spirit is displayed in our lives, it is a sign, or result, that we are being led by the Spirit of God. This is the best news! We can literally stop faking it or using willpower to try and possess all of traits we are “supposed” to have. God sent the Holy Spirit to transform us and the result will be far better than anything you or I could manufacture on our strength. My prayer for you today is that you will let go of the burden to try and fit into what you think you should be like and that you will be reminded to allow our Heavenly Father to transform your life and heart.

^"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

On the eve of many seniors graduating and moving forward through life’s challenges, I can't help but to think back on one such challenge I faced after coming to Christ in my senior year. Even though the Bible promises lifestyle change as a result of the indwelling Holy Spirit, some changes didn’t come fast enough for me. I remained a slave to the “in crowd” mentality and commonly judged people based on superficial reasons. 

The crowd I hung out with was neither popular nor un-popular, we were just a bunch of in-betweeners lacking social grace. One of the members of our group was a guy named Jeff. Jeff had a sister named Laura. Laura was really a nice person but had a very innocent demeanor that made her a target for our bullying. Even Jeff made fun of her. Laura had a friend named Robin who was very protective of her and so we made fun of her also. I don't remember suffering from much guilt over those high school wrongs afterall it was just high school. Plus it happened in Los Angeles. No one was ever going to see me again after I left and what are the odds of me ever running into anyone from the old days. Only God and I would know the truth. 

After I graduated I became very involved in the church I was saved at. I was drawn to the evangelism outreach ministry. Their job was to follow up with first time visitors to the church. This was a big church in Los Angeles and there were many people that visited and many to follow up on so I eagerly jumped right in.

Our first contact brought us to the house of a young woman who had recently visited the church. There were three of us standing on her porch as we knocked on the door. As the door opened, my heart dropped to my stomach. It was Laura’s friend Robin. The two people I was with noticed my reaction and asked if I knew her. As a matter of fact, I did. They immediately prayed asking God to get us in while I quietly begged God for a way out.

We didn’t go inside but we were able to talk to her a bit while on the front porch. Every word of her life made me cringe with shame. She had spent many years of her life taking care of her grandmother while she lived away from home due to poverty issues with her family. They were  unable to care for her. This also led to her inability to finish school. During our conversation, she admitted to being a Christian and despite the difficulties she faced in life she was gracious to me and never reviled me for my past treatment of her.

Needless to say, this is one of the times of my life I deeply regret. I’ve seen so many people exclude others or bully them and chalk it up to being young and stupid and treat the memory as if it was acceptable. Sometimes they even brag about it to friends at their high school reunion. Some people never grow up. For me, I grew up quite a bit when Robin answered that door. It’s ironic, but our purpose in visiting her was to present the Gospel and minister to her yet she wound up being such a great blessing to me. One that I will carry with me forever.

“Gratitude isn’t only a celebration when good things happen. Gratitude is a declaration God is good no matter what happens.” -Ann Voskamp

God is good no matter what. Sit with that for a moment and let it sink in. In my daily life I struggle with allowing my emotions to hold me hostage. They often lie to me, telling me that God is not near and that God does not care to answer the cries of my heart. This morning my emotions took over and I found myself frustrated and discouraged. That’s when I came across this quote and I knew at that moment I needed to stop and turn on some worship music. It occurred to me that by focusing on my emotions instead of the character of God I was essentially picking up my burdens and carrying them alone. God sent His only son so that we can freely approach the throne of grace and be in His presence. Why then do I choose my own pity party over spending time with God?

“So now I live with the confidence that there is nothing in the universe with the power to separate us from God’s love. I’m convinced that his love will triumph over death, life’s troubles, fallen angels, or dark rulers in the heavens. There is nothing in our present or future circumstances that can weaken his love. There is no power above us or beneath us—no power that could ever be found in the universe that can distance us from God’s passionate love, which is lavished upon us through our Lord Jesus, the Anointed One!” Romans 8:38-39

Here is a list of 5 worship songs to listen to when your emotions seem to get in the way:

1. In Christ Alone

“He is my light, my strength, my song….”

2. Run to the Father- Cody Carnes

There is no greater comfort than that of the love of God. There is no better reassurance than being in the arms of the Father.

3. It Is Well

“And this mountain that's in front of me
Will be thrown into the midst of the sea”

4. Lord, I Need You- Passion & Chris Tomlin

“Where You are, Lord I am free.”

Every hour, we need Him.

5. Holy Spirit- Francesca Battistelli

“No thing can compare, you’re our living hope….”

As I sit here writing, I gaze across a southwest desert landscape as the sun sets behind my back. It is quiet and a distant mountain range looms above the dry landscape. It is silent except for the occasional call of a quail and the sound of coyotes likely finding a meal. We have a small fire going to keep us company. There is no polarization here and it is quiet as God speaks to us through the moment. God’s creation just breathes in and out serving as the second revelation to all who venture into this wild country. I am at peace with God and His creation and quietly reflect on why there is so much division in our world and in our society.

Currently I am reading Francis Chan’s latest book, Until Unity. I was so impacted by it the first time around that I started reading it a second time and concurrently going through his daily bible reading on the book. The point of the book is the divisiveness that occurs not only in our society but even more so among those in the Christian faith. He rightfully points out that we are most divided faith group on earth. We have thousands of denominations and ministries each believing their theology or methodology is superior. Then we quietly circle the wagons among those we concur with and decide with pride that our way of thinking is right or best and that others are wrong. But is this healthy and even more so is it even biblical? Does God desire for us to pull back and huddle with those we agree with and isolate ourselves in such a way that divides us from others in the Christian faith? Francis believes the answer is no and I concur.

Some of the things that may divide us as people of faith also divide us as a society. One Christian may be a strong proponent of taking care of the environment and may even make his living doing just that. Another Christian may call all environmentalists, liberals, as if it is a sin to care about creation but with no biblical support to indicate there is anything wrong with those principles. In fact, the bible calls us to be good stewards of the environment and after all there are only two ways he reveals himself to us, one being through His creation. How can it possibly be that being a strong advocate for the environment puts us at odds with our Christian faith or even with other Christians? We should all be advocates for the environment provided we don’t put it above the creator.

Other ways we may differ in principle may be by taking care of those less fortunate. I am often guilty of not being sympathetic to those who I feel just are not working hard enough. As an American, the value of hard work is a number one priority for me and there should be no free handouts. On the other hand, what about those who just have not been given the same opportunity? Shouldn’t we show some type of sympathy for those who are less fortunate and where should we draw the line? Regardless of how we come to answer that question, how others view this problem is not necessarily wrong and should not be a cause for division. There is nothing more biblical than taking care of the poor, widowed and orphaned. It’s not a sin to care.

Perhaps nothing is more divisive than our own arrogance, particularly when we believe intellectually that we are superior somehow to others. Either with our theology, our thought process or our political beliefs. No matter how much we may know about the Bible or how much we think we may know about God, have we really stopped to ponder how much we don’t know? God is the creator of the universe and sovereign over all of creation. How can we possibly set ourselves above others by thinking that we know everything there is to know about a God so big?

Francis makes the point that our Savior was crucified to end our divisions, commands us to be united and says we will impact the world when we become one. How the body of Christ unifies makes all the difference in the world in our witness to the world. We can’t just go back among our circled wagons and talk about how deceived our brothers and sisters are in deep criticism and expect others to follow our savior with that as an example.

How should we then unite as a body of Christ not just within our own church but the entire Christian faith? Like most things that involve sins of man, we must put aside our pride and take on humility. Humbly bow before our Creator, putting Him as the focus of our entire being and to love our brothers and sisters as Christ loved us by dying on the cross as a sacrifice for our sins.

Now back to the quiet world of my creator as the sky turns black and the heavens open up for all who are willing to gaze upward at His grandeur. My prayer is that all of us would take the time to let the Lord speak to us in scripture and creation instead of the divisiveness of mankind.

“I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought." – 1 Corinthians 1:10