With traditions, too often the “form” outlasts the “reason” behind it. Gift giving at Christmas originated as a way of remembering the presents given to Jesus by the Wise Men and more importantly God’s gift to man in Jesus Christ:
“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.” ~John 3:16
By the way, did you know the biblical background of gift-giving? I had to search out the reason!
How often are we motivated to give because it is expected or we suspect someone is getting us a present?
Form becoming separate from reason can be a big problem as the Jews learned. In the Law, God had established a variety of traditional acts such as sacrifices and festivals, each with the intention to point people back to God’s blessings, to remind them of God’s way for them to live their life and to stimulate worship.
While the Jews maintained the outward form, the heart that it was intended to stimulate was dead.
In fact God condemned their actions:
“Stop bringing meaningless offerings,
Your incense is detestable to me.
New Moons, Sabbaths and convocations—
I cannot bear your evil assemblies.
Your New Moon festivals and your appointed feasts My soul hates
They have become a burden to me;
I am wary of bearing them.” Isaiah 1:14-15
We must remain cognizant of why we celebrate traditions so that they are not routine but instead a form of worship.
In our family there are very few immutable traditions, save one. The one constant has been the gathering of our family for the Christmas Holiday. While the reason, connecting with family, has remained constant, the form, how we gather, has seen significant change over the years.
Initially Penny and I had to work out the balance of time between our extended families, Christmas Eve with her side and Christmas morning with mine. As time progressed we saw changes to the family as siblings added spouses, children soon followed, and now we are beginning to experience the loss of parents. All along the way compromises to form have been necessary to address changing family needs and schedules. But the reason, connecting with family, has always remained the same.
The most significant change happened just a few years ago when we decided it was time to begin celebrating Christmas at our home in the East Mountains rather than traveling to Texas as we had done for 29 straight years. This was prompted by our boys starting families of their own.
This is not to say that form is not also important, just ask Nadab and Abihu who offered unauthorized fire before the Lord (LV 10:1-2) or Uzzah when he reached out to steady the ark of God (II Sam 6:6-7).
Really connecting with family over the holidays takes more than just time and proximity—form matters.
We have found that some years are a homerun and others are something less; which seems to hinge on the form of our time together. Hurt feelings over unappreciated gifts or meals can detract from success while a simple game of chicken-foot where everyone turns off the TV and phones and laughs and interacts for 2-3 hours can really make the connection happen.
Tradition can enrich the Holiday Season or it can also introduce real challenges. Before you let traditions detract from your festivities stop and ask yourself:
- What is the reason behind this tradition and thus is it worth fighting to maintain?
- Is the form important or would it be appropriate to try something new?
Whether you are initiating new traditions or following those that are tried-and-true remember to keep Christ at the center of your Christmas Season.
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Shine is forming a Cookie Posse! This will be a group of people who would like to bless the staff at A. Montoya with fresh-baked cookies! Each time a staff member reaches into our cookie jar, it'll be like getting a big hug from one of us. Please let Ashley Procter or Marcy Bryant know if you are interested in becoming a part of the Cookie Posse!
Also, Shine is setting up a unique food pantry at A. Montoya! Kids often go to bed without dinner, come to school too late for breakfast, and aren't sure if there will be dinner that night. We have been asked to create a small food pantry at the school that would contain items like tuna packets, apples, macaroni and cheese, Ensure or Boost, peanut butter crackers, nuts, and the like. The children could keep these items in their backpacks so that they would always have something to keep them going. We are working on putting together a list of items, including gluten-free ones, that we would like to stock the pantry with. Please pray about whether you would like to donate items or money to help keep the pantry stocked year-round!